Wednesday, August 24, 2011

When Being Selfish Is Not Selfish

Selfish (adjective)
1. Devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
2. Characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives.
That is the definition of the word selfish according to but I believe that doing something for yourself is not selfish. 
Let me give you a scenario to support this random idea. You are working 5 days a weeks of up to 10 or 12 hours a day. You go to gym to try to curb some of the lifestyle choices you make and to make sure you do not have a stroke and or heart attack. Your commute to work takes up to an hour each way - sometimes longer! You get home to spend some time with your partner and fall asleep in front of the television often. You are stressed at work too and you cannot sleep at night.

Even if you agreed to one or any of the above, as I did, then you are probably thinking that you need a holiday or some time out, some 'you time'. I agree. This is where the above statement is defined. Some people will look at taking some "you time" as selfish. I do not. I think that people like yourself give and give some more, with people only wanting more from you. I say taking a 'you time' break is not selfish at all and in fact, I think it is necessary to take them regularly.
'You time' does not have to be a retreat to the middle of nowhere, with no cell phone, Wi-Fi or radio signal. It can be as simple as a walk around the block or dinner with your partner. There is only one criterion - NO INTERUPTIONS! This does exclude emergencies. This time is special and is not utilized often enough by all of us.

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